.... I thought I'd write it on my blog. Which of course none of our new acquaintances read. But still.
Yes, we are thinking about having (adopting) kids. No, we don't know when. And yes, we know that there is no perfect time, no perfect scenario, and we will never feel like we have enough money. And we know that it only gets harder to adjust the older we get.
That sounds like a rant, but I don't mean it to be one.
One of the weirdest, most unexpected things that has happened since we've been in NC has been what feels (to me) to be a steady stream of questioning and input from near strangers about our family planning. Maybe it was just the circles we ran in in Chicago, but NO ONE ever asked. Not even close friends. I think the last time anyone asked us what we were thinking about our future family was in our pre-marital counseling. If Yankees find personal procreation questions a bit too taboo, then I think that the our fair Southerners find them as comfortable as "do you drink sweet tea?". As in, 'Hi, my name is Jan. Would you like some sweet tea? Do you have any children? No? How long have you been married? Oh, you've still got a few years to get started. Not to worry."
And maybe the second weirdest thing that has happened since we moved here is that we have been talking about babies. A lot. Adoption, mostly, as we talk about our someday life.
Anyway, there you go. I know none of you were actually asking, but I just thought I'd get that off my chest.
2 comments:
if you think southerners are rough on procreating try Africans :) "Mama Annikah time to get pregnant again NOW! You do not have a boy yet" Sigh.
I think assumptions about family planning are rude, but it seems like it should be OK to ask a question about it.
In other words: When are you going to have children?--Bad.
Do you hope to have children someday?--Fine.
My favorite anecdote about family planning rudeness is when A Certain Elder at our Church asked if my pregnancy was an accident. I asked him, "Are you asking me if we had sex without birth control on purpose, or if our birth control failed us?"
He didn't get it.
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